Sunday, September 20, 2009

joint (but not similar) details

This semester I'm not taking a single English class. And this summer when I realized I wasn’t going to be an English major anymore, that I was going to graduate, and leave academia behind, I was devastated. For weeks, I seriously considered going to get a Masters in Romantic British Literature just so I wouldn’t have to leave. But graduate school is kind of an expensive thing to do "just for fun." I eventually realized that even though I was graduating, I wouldn't stop learning. I would continue to read, and continue to surround myself with intelligent people. So this semester, in addition to my readings for Political Science classes, I've been reading Plato's Symposium and Carson McCullen's The Ballad of the Sad Cafe. Last night I read something in Sad Cafe that I liked almost as much I liked what I have been reading in 1 Corinthians.

First of all, love is a joint experience between two persons -- but the fact that it is a joint experience does not mean that it is a similar experience to the two people involved.

The beloved can also be of any description. The most outlandish people can be the stimulus for love. The beloved may be treacherous, greasy-headed, and given to evil habits. Yes, and the lover may see this as clearly as anyone else. But that does not affect the evolution of his love one wit. A most mediocre person can be the object of a love which is wild, extravagant, and beautiful as the poison lilies of the swamp. A good man may be the stimulus for a love both violent and debased, or a jabbering madman may bring about in the soul of the someone a tender and simple idyll. Therefore, the value and quality of any love is determined solely by the lover himself. It is for this reason that most of us would rather love than be loved. For the lover is forever trying to strip bare his beloved. The lover craves any possible relation with the beloved, even if this experience can cause him only pain.


  1. I have the same fear of graduation - I don't want/ can't stop learning. I love it, just skip all the home work. It will be an adventure learning and teaching on my own!

  2. This has nothing to do with your post, but I miss Courtney!!!!! And you!!! Don't forget to write her in the MTC!!! Seeing your blog and hers always makes me think of both of you.

  3. I've added both of those books to my list.

  4. What a lovely thought. It reminds me of our conversation about intimacy. This will give me something to think about...


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