Wednesday, July 9, 2014

"You look beautiful"

I have not been great at taking weekly progress pictures, but this is a 32 week picture from my instagram 

My whole life I thought pregnant ladies looked freaky. Almost without exception, I believed every one of them was a puffy, star-bellied-sneech-shaped alien. Obviously they were not the problem – they were goddesses, glowing with miraculous, life-giving glory – but my own fears surrounding pregnancy and labor fueled this belief for roughly 25 years. Then my friend Lexy got pregnant and wrote about teaching her students to say, “You look beautiful,” to those obviously carrying a child. That’s it. Not, “Awww, you look so tired!” or “Wow, you look so big!” or anything except “You look so beautiful.” 

Reading her post was like receiving a Get Out of Jail Free card because, to me, talking to pregnant ladies actually felt like a super awkward jail. My previous conversation strategy was simple: completely avoid talking to all pregnant ladies, at all cost, no matter what. I was sure that any other solution would require an intricate flow chart based on some complicated equation from a calculus/birthing class that I never wanted to take. But now I knew the trick, and it was even simpler than my existing strategy. So for over a year, every time one of my friends got pregnant, whenever I saw her, I told her she was beautiful.

Then, somewhere along the way, I started believing it. I stopped being terrified of pregnant ladies, and I started genuinely seeing beauty in pregnancy. I think the most astounding part of this paradigm shift is how it happened A) so naturally and B) completely by accident. Anyway, I am most grateful that it happened before I got pregnant myself; otherwise this post would be written about my progress in intensive therapy.

britt

12 comments:

  1. This made me cry. And you really ARE beautiful! I can't wait for your little boy to get in your arms! Being a parent is unreal. You'll be blown away by how much and how quickly your hearts can grow!

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    1. :) thanks Melissa. We're pretty sure he'll be a wonderful addition to the family.

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  2. Britt, that is such good advice! I had a friend who had people come up to her all the time asking if she was having twins (she wasn't) and it was just demoralizing to her! A few of them could have used your friend's post for sure :) I think pregnant ladies are champions and don't know how they do it! You are adorable :)

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    1. Thanks for being the nicest :) and I feel terrible about your friend - nobody needs that, but I'm sure she handled it with grace and dignity. I would have just broken down crying... nbd.

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  3. I love this! I feel like I always say pregnant things to pregnant ladies. And most people in general actually. This is awesome.

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    1. It really is a great trick... but I'm sure you already say the perfect things.

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  4. I love this!! And I totally remember you telling me I was beautiful when I was pregnant with Daisy. I cried about it (in a good way). People just tended to say really odd things to me when I was pregnant, so that simple and kind compliment meant the world to me. Thank you :) you are wonderful and beautiful too!!

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    1. Why do people think it's okay to comment so much about our bodies! So weird. And I actually believed you were beautiful. So. I wasn't even lying.

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  5. best. picture. ever.

    also, you look so beautiful.

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