Tuesday, March 7, 2017
Dating My Husband
When Chris and I were engaged I told him how much I wanted to have a weekly babysitter for our future children, but I didn’t actually implement that plan until our fourth anniversary. Last February, my favorite girl started coming over after Jack went to sleep, and Chris and I went out almost every week for four months.
I should have kept a list of our nights out, but I didn’t. We took a class at REI. We went to Stanford volleyball games. We signed up to volunteer at the food bank. We rode our bikes to taco trucks. Nothing crazy. But what we did was irrelevant because just going out (even to the movies, even to dinner), just doing something together was exciting and rejuvenating. It brought an indispensable intimacy to our marriage.
As parents of young children our lives are built around structure and control. That predictability brings its own incandescent happiness, but mixed in with that wonderful (inescapable) repetitiveness I need novelty and surprise. I want habit and adventure, routine and excitement. I still want to have moments of reckless abandon.
So for our fifth anniversary SINCE WE’RE NOT HAVING ANY BABIES I’m planning a whole year of weekly dates. But I’m writing them down this time because it’s fun for me, a clinically obsessive list-writer. So far, we’ve gone shopping for silverware, had a romantic dinner in Half Moon Bay, and this week will be our first date night in.
So since I’m planning at least 52 of these dates, please tell me: What’s the best date you ever had? What are your go-to favorite date nights? How do you make a date night IN feel extra special? How do you find babysitting? Who plans your dates? I want to hear how you’ve figured this out because... I have not figured this out.